A couple of weeks ago I got a bad haircut. Luckily it all worked out — it doesn’t look too bad, and I talked it down so much that I was showered with compliments when people saw that I had any hair at all. (Keep expectations low, kids.) But I don’t really want to talk about that right now, I was just trying to break the ice.
Ice broken yet? Great, because we’re going to dive right in. That’s right, today we’re swimming under the ice, in emotional territory. It’s not a place I go often, sincerity, but hey, sometimes it happens to the best of us.
Today is my last day in New Zealand. In fact, I’m waiting at the Auckland Airport right now, writing away my thoughts to pass the time. (And to stay awake — I was falling asleep on a bench.)
If I were feeling humorous, I’d probably try to connect this farewell post to one of my first posts where I said I was coming to NZ for nine months to give birth to a secret love child at a nunnery or something. (The child is healthy and will grow up to be a devout Catholic nun and then one day become abbess and take charge of a cathedral-building project and I just realized this has become a gender-flipped version of Pillars of the Earth.) Regardless, I’m not feeling particularly funny right now (hence the PotE reference), I’m feeling sad. Because I don’t like goodbyes.
Usually my move is the Irish Goodbye — just disappearing without a word, without a hug. Just taillights in the distance and the soft sniffle of solitary car sobs drifting back on the wind. But sometimes you just have to suck it up and sniffle it out right there. Because goodbyes are sad, and sometimes you just have to feel something and deal with it. (And this coming from a person so adverse to revealing her true feelings that she developed a fear last year that maybe people could read her thoughts. Which is absolutely ridiculous. …right?)
I don’t love being sad. Melancholy isn’t my favorite suit. (I’m saying this as if it was an established phrase — I would like you to proceed as though it was.) But the reason I’m sad today is because I’ve enjoyed the places I’ve been, and the people I’ve been with.* Which seems like a pretty good reason to be sad.
This post is nothing very special. Nothing more than the rambling thoughts of an overtired girl who’s getting ready to return to one home, while leaving another behind. (Also, the girl’s hair is poofing like a mad scientist’s on the sides because someone cut it too short, but that’s another story.)
It’s only at the end of a journey that we see how far we’ve come. You don’t know how hard it’s going to be to climb a mountain until you’ve done it. And that sounds like a metaphor, but I mean that literally. I have climbed mountains (okay, one mountain, get off my case) that I wouldn’t have dared start if I knew how challenging it would be. So it’s probably a good thing I didn’t know about the steep stone steps, or the loose rocky incline. I never would have climbed the mountain at all. And I might never have come to New Zealand if I knew how hard and exhausting my journey would be. So I’m glad I didn’t know. Because looking down from the top of this metaphorical mountain (now we are talking metaphors, keep up), I am so happy I made it all the way, and I hope I remember this view forever. (Remember, we’re talking metaphors, so by “view” I’m really talking about the experiences I’ve had and the relationships I’ve made. You know what? Metaphors are too confusing, screw metaphors. Let’s go back to straight talk.)
I can’t say that I’ve loved every minute of my time here, because I’m not a liar and we’re doing straight talk time. What I will say is that there experiences worth having, and people worth meeting, that do nothing to move you toward your “goals,” but completely change your life for the better. Never be afraid to have an experience for experience’s sake. Take chances. Climb mountains (real or metaphorical — climber’s choice). Don’t be afraid to get close to people just because you’re afraid of heartbreak. Sometimes heartbreak is worth it for all the heart…smiles? What’s the opposite of heartbreak? Ah, I suppose some would say that it’s love.** Sometimes heartbreak is worth it for all the love you have in the meantime.
I told you this wasn’t going to be funny. I really did warn you. I told you that I’m feeling sad and sentimental and that I’m wearing my melancholy suit even though it’s too big and the collar kind of itches. So that’s what I have for you today, my friends, a brain dump of honesty.
Now, if you came here expecting a witty monologue of sorts, and you neglected to heed my warning, well, I’m sorry. But I don’t do wasted time refunds. (The paperwork alone on that would require me to file my own suit and it becomes a vicious circle.) Because I do feel bad about the unexpected tonal change for today’s post, however, I will wrap this up with a couple of jokes on the house. I’ve got two short jokes and a long one.
Joke. Joke. J o o o o o o o o o o o k e.
Damn it that plays better outloud.
*EDITOR’S NOTE: “with whom I’ve been.”
AUTHOR’S NOTE: Will you just be quiet? I’m having a moment.
**EDITOR’S NOTE: Of course it is you idiot.
AUTHOR’S NOTE: Love you, you numbskull.
EDITOR’S NOTE: (Back attcha.)